Marital Bliss

This one is for all of you who are married. It doesn't matter if you are happily married or unhappily married. All of you will benefit. You'll see why.

Each and every person comes into their marriage with a laundry list of preconceived notions about what being married is like. These ideas have come from observing parents, grandparents, friends, relatives, even total strangers who are married. Subconsciously, each person absorbs these ideas until they become married themselves. At this point, all the accumulated ideas come to the front to dictate what the marriage just entered into is suppose to be like.

Understand this, TWO people entered into the marriage. Each one of the two have preconceived ideas about what their marriage is suppose to be like. No two people have exactly the same ideas about anything. Given this situation, is it any wonder that so many marriages have so many problems? Yet the individuals that have pledged their lives to each other are not even aware of the subconscious factors leading to the problems they experience in the marriage.

What is to be done? If you have been reading these blogs, you have some idea already what is next. Forget the memories that make you married. These memories are the very ones that were mentioned above. They are memories of all the observations of marriages throughout your life. Once your subconscious mind is turned off of these memories, you can begin the process of developing your own concepts of what it means to be married.

To ensure that you do start developing your own concepts as well as use the positive memories you already have, remember the memories that let you be married. This gives you permission to be married as well as develop your own ideas of what it means to be married. To put it simply, the two of you in the relationship are free to develop your marriage as the two of you want it to be. You'll no longer have the interference of your past memories making problems within your relationship.

All of you who are or have been married, give this the benefit of your doubt. You will find that there are some great changes ahead. Your relationship will improve. Your ability to get along, work together, cooperate will increase. You will find that being married is something very, very good for both of you.