Hiding Was Fun As A Child, But.....

"Hide and go seek. Seek and go hide. I`ll count to 100 and you go hide." Sound familiar? It's the beginning of the ever popular childhood game, Hide and Seek. This is a good introduction of the topic of this article. Too many people hide themselves from others. There's nothing wrong with this. But it is a major hindrance to other people getting to know you, the real you. Some people hide by acting like someone else. Some people hide by isolating themselves. Still others hide themselves by building psychological walls that no one can get through.

All of these are means of hiding yourself. As previously stated this isn't wrong, it just hurts you. Oh, you aren't aware of it, maybe, but it is hurting you. In cases of abuse, the child decided to hide him or her self as a defense against the abuse as well as the abuser. As the child becomes an adult, the hiding is no longer needed, but it continues just the same. In other cases, the child feels worthless, rotten, or devalued. Hiding him or her self avoids this feeling because they are certain that someone else is more worthy or valued than they themselves are. So hiding themselves by acting like someone else gives them artificial self esteem. Again, once the child has achieved adulthood this is no longer necessary. Still the behavior continues.

How can this behavior be changed? Forget the memories that make you hide yourself. Such memories have kept you hiding long after the conditions that caused it were over. You do not have to hide anymore, so don't. Forget the memories that make you hide yourself instructs your subconscious mind to cease to use the memories perpetuating this behavior. Thus, this behavior comes to an end as a `have to' condition.

Now, there are times when you will want and/or need to hide yourself. No one wishes to prevent you from being able to do this. So, remember the memories that let you hide yourself. This tells your subconscious mind to make use of those memories that give you permission to hide yourself when you want to. These occasions are going to be rare, but they will happen. Now you can. But you won't have to hide yourself all the time. You can be who you are for all the world to see. Your relationships will change as you are yourself. You will use less energy by being yourself as you haven't realized how much energy it takes to hide yourself all the time. It will be nice to get to know the real you!