Confrontation Is Good For You!

Confrontation is a painful ordeal for many, many people. It is something that most people avoid. Yet confrontation can be educational, build relationships, improve relations, and generate better understanding between people. That depends on how confrontation is handled, of course. When approached in a positive manner with good intentions and a strong desire to resolve whatever is the issue, confrontation comes out with positive results. Those that seek to avoid confrontation usually have had negative outcomes from confrontation. That is what makes them avoid it at all costs.

Another reason for people to avoid confrontation: memories of being confronted which felt like being abused. These memories lead to a serious quandary. Number one, no one wants to be abused. No one looks for it. If at all possible, all people avoid abuse at all costs. Number two, most people want to avoid abusing others. It is taboo. You just do not do that to someone else.

Now comes the hard part. As stated, confrontation is good, healthy, and necessary at times. Therefore, to experience confrontation as it is supposed to be, you are required to abuse or be abused to a certain degree. Currently that is not possible. But it can be! Forget the memories that make you abuse someone. Such memories have led to one of two behaviors. Either you have abused someone a lot or you have refused to abuse someone at all, ever. The memories that make you abuse someone can trigger other memories that direct your behavior such that you cannot abuse someone. Not any more! These memories are discontinued from directing your behavior.

Then there is the other side of it. In order to do the confronting, you need memories of abusing someone engaged in directing your behavior. So, remember the memories that let you abuse someone. Have no fear of this. The result is not going be you beating someone up. You are just going to be able to stand up to someone. You will be able to assert yourself. This is commonly interpreted as abuse by your subconscious mind. Therefore you have not been able to do this before. Now you can!

There is an additional benefit to this particular help. Your humor will improve. Your use of humor will improve. You see, humor is a form of abuse. We use it to make others laugh, but it can be hard on people. Humor can be nasty, sarcastic, a put-down, or cutting. Just reading this, does it not sound like abuse? That is the point. Humor is a form of abuse. You have been limited in your use of humor because you could not abuse someone. You will find that this help releases you to use humor more, appropriately, and comfortably. Humor is an important part of relating to others. Being able to use it will improve your relationships.